If you could go back in time, what would you tell your younger self about life, love, whatever the Hell you want to bring up? Now, really reach down deep and speak those words to your soul. Because your soul basically is your inner child, and todays expectations of adulthood are completely crushing the souls and dreams of everyone.

I would tell mine that it’s okay to have boundaries. That despite what you were told as a kid it’s okay to say no to stuff and people that aren’t good for you. That love, truly starts within and if you don’t love yourself first, no one else is going to know how to love you, or even care really. And I’d let that scared little girl, or that depressed middle schooler, or that angst teen, all three desperate for love and affection, I’d make sure they know that no matter what anyone says, they matter and they are important, and they are worthy. I would tell them about how at 19 they would survive after their brains get literally scrambled. I would warn them of how many broken hearts they would be left with to heal on their own. I would tell them their future daughter would be every bit of exhausting energy they have beee imagining, and she would be the best thing to ever happen to them. I would warn them that their future would be scary and difficult, but that the battles would be so worth it, and would teach them so much. And I would tell them all of this to show them how strong they actually are, despite no one ever giving them credit. I would assure them that nothing is wrong with them, they are just mentally wired differently. I would tell them despite all of their learning differences, that they need to ignore the naysayers and believe in themselves because they are creative intelligent, magical unicorns and they are destined for great things.

And I would tell them all of this so they don’t have to figure it out all by them selves at 35, after years of mental and emotional anguish and abuse. People say don’t look in the past because you can’t change it, and to that I say bull shit. I am healing the past me’s in order to be able to look toward the future. And for the first time my future is looking brighter, rather than just a hodgepodge of very distant pipe dreams.